Online dating profile tips for men

During my vast experience with online dating (ok, not that vast), I have noticed a few things that guys post in their profiles that are red flags to ignore them. In honor of sitting home on a Friday night without any dates, I've decided to post these findings for posterity. If only one guy reads this and makes a change in his profile, maybe a girl will actually write back to him, sending good karma back my way in the form of no more empty Friday nights. (Although I do enjoy watching Numbe3rs)

1. When posting your photos, do not include a bunch of pictures with you and other girls. You may think that this makes you look cool because you have a lot of friends who are girls. In reality, we don't know who these girls are. We think they're probably your ex-girlfriends and you just haven't gotten over them. Or we think that you're a player who parties all of the time with a lot of girls. Not desirable.

2. Along the same lines, don't post a picture you obviously took of yourself by holding the camera out in front of you. These pictures are never flattering. Set your camera on a timer (that's what I did) or find someone to take your picture for you. Maybe one of those girls from your other pictures.

3. When writing your profile, don't emphasize how you don't have a lot of experience with women. Guys may like the whole virginal crap, but girls don't. It just makes you look like a loser. It's ok if you don't have a lot of experience, just don't advertise it. If that's the best thing you can right about yourself, you have problems bigger than an online dating site can fix.

4. When exchanging emails with a girl, be sure to sign your name. Seriously, what is your name? I don't know, it's not obvious from your screenname and I feel like an idiot asking because I'm sure you'll feel like an idiot when I do.

5. When exchanging emails with a girl, write in proper English. All lower case letters and no punctuation make it look like your too lazy or in a hurry to write the email. Also, don't write like the email is one long text message. "NEways" "4" "ur" "IM" (instead of I'm) -- don't do it. The site is not charging you by the character.

6. Look at the girl's profile before you send her a wink or an icebreaker or an email. If she says she wants someone between 23 and 28 and you're 38, chances are you're not what she is looking for. If she says she wants someone within 25 miles of Raleigh and you live on the Virginia state line, chances are you're not what she is looking for. And if she says she wants someone who doesn't smoke and you single handedly keep Philip Morris in business, chances are you're not what she is looking for.

I'm sure I'll think of more later on and will post.


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